So here we are on 17th March. It’s a special day.
It’s a new day. It’s a day to celebrate.
My reader you may be wondering why? It’s my friend’s
birthday. A friend I have in my mind, not spoken my heart to, did spend a lot
of time with, not bought a wallet for. But today is his birthday.
So first to begin with “Happy Birthday My Friend”
Somehow from the last few days that I am writing every day I
am getting an inner voice that is telling me “You need to write me today, I am
so time bound, I will have a cosmos death tomorrow” So yes I had to write it
today. Because it is his birthday.
Daily Stuff
00.00 am - The day started at Midnight sharp by wishing him.
Morning Fun – For me having lovely conversations and video
calls with my office colleagues means a lot and that is exactly how it was
today. I am extremely fond of some of my colleagues. They are smart. Most of
them are woman and I would say they are woman of substance, they have an excellent
emotional quotient, most of them has same issues that I have – Work life
balance, Eating habits, Staying fit, Cribbing from time to time and so on, so
we relate in a lot of ways. What is Awesome here is still their Rational Mind
speaks so clear to them and in return in their professional meetings and calls.
Facebook - It takes only 5 mins of my attention in a day.
Honestly I hate Facebook, I hate happy pictures of spouses, kids and who gave
what gift to whom. Do I care? I don’t. I know I may sound virtually very
unsocial but that’s ok. That is how I am. Facebook for me is useful only to
watch some videos that are of interest to me or inspires me.
Twitters - I came to office pretty late. Like around Lunch time. Here I
have a bunch of colleagues who are between 24 and 27 years of age and they have
different faces and phases of innocence, humor, consciousness and aspirations.
So they came and spoke to me time and again. It feels nice. One of them told me
during today’s Fire Drill (I have to take care of you, after all senior
citizen) Senior citizen it seems. BIG LOL! I did a demo of how to extinguish
small fire situation with the red cylindrical Fire Extinguishers which we have
mostly in all Offices.
Siesta Date - I have an afternoon date every day. My Date is a Cute Friend.
A Beautiful Girl who is like Dev-Anand, she is not ageing. Since the time I met
her she has not aged a bit. I really don’t know which Face cream she uses. I never asked her though about it. Disclaimer*
I am not homosexually inclined neither my date is but then we speak every day
over the phone at our respective office parking lot and we laugh, we giggle, we
feel good, we feel refreshed. So one day she said the security guard in her
parking lot will feel she is talking to her boyfriend. I so echoed her because
I think my colleagues here think I am talking to my boyfriend and all because
of the giggles during the conversations. ALERT* We do also have times when we
totally disagree but we give space to each other to AGREE AND DISAGREE
Day's Nerve - Meetings, Work, Calls, and Replying to mails are going on in
their own natural flow. So overall lets say the day is ok, a little sleep
deprived and no yoga done.
Facebook Lightning
So I was watching a video in Facebook. The Video was about a
Woman from Pakistan and how her life changed six years ago when she met with an
accident and had multiple fractures. Crux of her journey in the last six years.
How optimizing she has been with her time and her mindset. And how she has the
never to loose and do the best in an adverse situation. What struck me there is
when she said – The friends she had closest turned their back the quickest when
she needed them the most
Learn to Unlearn
So now this line got stuck to me. I think I have read,
heard, felt, and discussed this line time and again. How many times the closest
friends that one had turns their back when you need them the most. The
situations can be anything – it can be financial, emotional, professional or
spiritual
Bigger Question – Why?
After cribbing, bitching, gossiping about such friends time
and again I have come to a settlement.
Previously I used to think how they changed their hat from
the “Main Hoon Na” Shah Rukh Khan to “Nach Basanti Nach” Gabbar
And I always thought were they the hero or the villain all
this while?
But I guess they always had the little not likings about
you, and when they got the first chance to show that they don’t care, they
showed it. Pretty Simple!
Consensus
Q – How could my friend do this to me?
Ans – He always wanted to do it, maybe he never got the
right space but now he can voice himself
Q – Is this what you call friendship?
Ans – Friendship is just an overused and understated word
among most of us.
Q – What should I do?
Ans – You have options, let friendship take the natural
death of emotions or demote him to acquaintance
Q – Is my expectations speaking?
Ans – There is nothing wrong in having expectations. But
expectations subside when reality checks in
PS: Happy Birthday Friend or Acquaintance or Natural Emotional Death?
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